Life Coach: The Power of Nice

Just picked up The Power of Nice, by Linda Kaplan Thaler and Robin Koval. I completely agree with their philosophy that “it pays to be nice.” Finally, a four-letter word I can use around my parents:)

The Power of Nice is available through Amazon.com.

Also visit their site at: www.thepowerofnice.com

Life Coach: Why I Am So Positive

“What comes out of me goes into the planet!”
“What comes out of me goes into the community!”

Life Coach: Stop To Smell The Roses

Not only do I stop to smell the roses, I’m planting my own garden.

Life Coach: Anais Nin on life

“We don’t see things as they are, we see them as we are” – Anais Nin

Life Coach: People Hating Your Happiness?

People hate when you brag about your happiness, mainly because they have none of their own to brag about. So they call your happiness bullshit – sometimes to your face.

They may look like they have it all together, they may tell you they have it all together, but their fear is in their words.

Sometimes what somebody says against you (or against others) is really what they want you to know is true about their own lives. When somebody hates on you, understand they’re being honest – about themselves.

Life Coach: Saying NO! – “Mean” or “Meaningful”?

There’s a “mean” way – and a “meaningful” way – of saying no. One is derogatory; the other is life affirming.

A “mean” no is probably not the truth. Whereas a “meaningful” no can be transformative, balanced, Zen. It’s Feng Shui – it’s a no that means the request doesn’t align with your life’s plan/path. The no itself can be a sharing of your life’s plan/path with the requester. Imagine a request from a stranger that you answer with your Zen approach to life. Your no is quite literally your life-affirming answer to life – your life.

I highly recommend “Boundaries,” by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend.

Life Coach: How Do I Find The One To Find?

I wrote this observation a few years back when I was spending much more time in the club/bar scene. It’s still somewhat relevant in the current coffee house scene…

How do I find the one to find?

This is not life; this is only the bars and the Saturday afternoons spent with lovers. How do I find the one to find?

Or the many, for that matter; How do I choose from the many?

No, real life is during the early waking hours, the beginning of the week, and the very end of every day. Who is there at those times, and how do I choose? How do I find the one to find?

All day today spent with lovers, and the evening with mistresses. Sometimes too many is worse because nothing is found. No love; no truth.

Today I kept running into lovers that I wanted, and continued to want lovers that I did not see. And after the booze and bars, dancing and kissing, nothing is real. No one is really found.

There is no one to die for, or to die with. There is no Romeo’s Juliet.

It is all simply a song, a bar, a girl with my number that does not call.

So, how do I find the one to find?

Life Coach: Hidden Wisdom!

Last night’s (Dec. 11, 2006) PBS airing of “Hidden Wisdom of Our Yearnings” with Irwin Kula was tremendous! A phrase that stood out was: “The more we allow ourselves to unfold, the less we unravel.”

PBS note: Rabbi Irwin Kula, author of “Yearnings: Embracing the Sacred Messiness of Life,” discusses the positive energy of yearnings; and how to transform one’s life by better understanding them.

See more here: http://www.simple-wisdom.com/about_ik.htm

Life Coach: “Fearful” or “Fearless”?

Do we live in a closet of fear or out in the open – fearless? Do we want a mate so badly that we live without good friends and pass up golden opportunities? How do we decide if a relationship is working or not? Our relationships either keep us in the closet of fear or cheer us on as we dance out in the open – fearless!

Life Coach – Why We Should Break Up

Life Coach (10/23/06):

I should break up with someone to maintain my path of happiness. But, mostly, we break up with someone because we’re miserable.

We should break up with someone because they’re not “happiness” for us. Not because they’re “miserable” for us. We should break from someone when we feel distracted from our path of happiness – when we feel they’re not helping to maintain our happiness-path.

Most of us break up with someone because *they* treat us poorly; but, we should break up with someone because *we* choose to continue to treat ourselves happily.